Hello my darling friends, family, fiends, and foes,
In my continuing quest to fall in love with myself, I’ve had a stunning realization. It’s not necessarily the focus on loving myself that’s important, as much as the focus should be on BEING fully myself.
I often fall into the self-development trap of feeling broken and I need to constantly fix it. When I am X then I can Y. These days it looks like ‘When I am successful, then I can put on a show.’
“Success” has such weight to it. To be “successful” feels practically impossible. In whose eyes are you supposed to be successful? Yours? Your father’s? Your old boss’? Your ex who always used the word “irregardless” even though it’s technically correct you still feel like it’s weird that he would continue to use a famously wrong word??
I set myself a journaling challenge to come up with versions of success that had nothing to do with job titles or money. I highly recommend you do the same, feel free to pause reading here and get your journal, word doc, CVS receipt, and see what comes to mind.
I’ll post my bullet points below. I’d love to know yours! Or, if you take inspiration from any of mine, I’d love to know that too!
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My versions of success:
Deeply knowing that I can’t be replaced.
My energy levels are predictable and high.
I am only pouring from the saucer because my cup is so over-filled.
Getting booked on shows where I feel confident no assholes will be there.
Going to any city and being able to get butts in seats.
Having a healthy relationship with my art, the stage, social media, my body, my soul.
A deep understanding that my favorites*, friends, community, audience, and haters are completely different buckets.
*Favorites is defined as best friends and family, but family is a weighted word for me, so favorites it is!
Deeply trusting my future self to handle the risks my current self puts forth.
Living in a haunted house with a wrap around porch with a hot beverage in my hands and ghosts by my side.
And just for fun, here’s a list of success that I feel I’ve already accomplished:
Constantly building systems that optimize my ADHD and dyslexic brain.
Have over 200 subscribers on this email list (OMGGG Thank you!)
Writing this newsletter consistently (without a schedule) for 2+ years
Throwing myself fully into stand up comedy while still balancing a day job and ~*~life~*~
Getting up and moving to another country and just trusting that everything will work out.
To your own version of success,
Dalya Black